Pictured: First Lady Michelle Obama waits as President Barack Obama, background, signs the guestbook upon their arrival to Prague Castle, April 5, 2009, in the Czech Republic.
This picture says an infinite amount of things. All in all, I love it and you get the point.
assist: as⋅sist / [uh-sist] / –verb (used with object)
1. to give support or aid to
2. to be associated with as an assistant or helper.
Interesting.
I searched through the NCAA and NBA record books to see if there was any mention of Maxwell’s assist record. Arguably one of the greatest point guards of all-time: the man, the myth, the legend is [coming] back. This man is quite the talent, furnishing some of our generation’s most creative music.
Two things to note: 1) his album is coming out this summer, not sure when, but a MUST cop 2) he’s headlining Essence Fest this year in New Orleans.
This is just an fyi, cheers to one of the best out there. He’s up there in my Sade category.
New video: http://www.musze.com/
I am. Quite. Possibly. An expert on this subject matter.
A few quick keystrokes on dictionary.com results in 8 definitions for irony. Attraction? A cool 6. For purposes of this blog, let’s go with the definitions listed below.
Irony: an objectively or humorously sardonic utterance, disposition, quality, etc.
Attraction: Physics. The electric or magnetic force that acts between oppositely charged bodies, tending to draw them together.
Attraction–like leadership, love, or the definition of ‘good pizza’–happens to be quite subjective.
I like to think of it as a hazy, whimsical, feeling that is wickedly unique in its meaning to each of us. Ask 10 people what “attraction” is, and you are all but guaranteed 10 different answers. Go ahead, test me if you must.
Attraction is trippy. Intangible. Great. But, oh, so different for us all. It’s like trying to define love and, let’s be honest, can one really define an emotion? I think not.
What makes it ironic, you ask? Well, primarily because both the cause and effect can be rather absurd. I mean, how many emotions are equally capable of making one feel F-ing great, or like you having the Worst Week Ever.??
In worst case scenarios, or what I like to call ‘twitterpation gone wild’, poor, sadistic, lovesick puppies experience equal doses of these emotions at the same time. I, unfortunately, can not empathize with you folks on such matters. However, I am but short walk to your computer away, if you need a shoulder to cry on.
I, on the other hand, am more apt to experience the Irony of Lack of Attraction. Yes, my friends, you guessed right. This is the syndrome that causes one to meet Mr. Fantastic as A Friend. Repeatedly.
Or sometimes to be, a mere 2% of the time, Ms. Fantastic as A Friend–yes, it happens to the best of us. Don’t get me wrong. Mr. Fantastic as A Friend is not remotely as awful as suffering from unrequited infatuation. Quite the contrary, as it is usually the beginning of pretty cool friendships. Nonetheless, Lovestruck Bambi it does not one make. Did I mention I am SO ready to be Bambi? Sigh…. But, I digress….
How one defines “attraction” can and will vary based on a infinite number of variables: personality, situation, experiences, similarities, values…..you get the picture. However, there will always, always, always be one common denominator. Chemistry.
Attraction is a random S.O.B. One can almost never predict who will cause powerful stirrings in the belly. And one can never predict when this almighty and elusive, but no less powerful and delicious, feeling will be aroused by Chemistry.
And this, is the Irony of it all.
You see, one may never know exactly when they will be struck by the lightening of attraction. In fact, we’re lucky if both magnetically charged bodies are struck, equally and at the same time.
But, Chemistry does. And, unfortunately, that sardonic hussy ain’t talking .
Victoria is a Human Resources Professional, and currently works as a HR Manager for General Mills—Yoplait Division. Prior to joining General Mills, she spent 4 years as a HR Manager with Pepsi. Victoria received her Master’s Degree from the University of Illinois (Urbana-Champaign) in HR Management & Labor Relations; and her Bachelors of Science in Industrial/Organization Psychology from ISU.
For kicks, she enjoys spending traveling, writing, spending time with friends, and trying just about anything new.
There’s many perspectives on relationships, analogies on the subject matter, but I found this one quite interesting, yet accurate.
“relationships are like outfits, you don’t always have to match…
…just as long as you coordinate.” - Cliff V. Dailey
Mr. Cliff and I initially met at the schoolhouse (FAMU) and formed a bond through the legendary/infamous/great/notorious Alpha Xi chapter of KAΨ. Even more so, I hand-picked this man to help take the chapter to the next level…and that he did.
Visit this young man’s blog @ http://cliffvaldez.blogspot.com/
Re: relationships & outfits…thoughts? Feel free to comment.
by j.a.c.
All this Ms. Independent stuff seems wonderful doesn’t it? Ne-Yo has single-handedly revolutionized who the independent woman is and what it means to be one. Men and women alike seem to love the concept. My homeboy wrote once, “But Ne-Yo neatly describes the type of woman that turns me on and impresses me. Of course he doesn’t cover everything though. And yes it is something about a woman that has her stuff together and doesn’t need you but chooses to spend time with you because she genuinely enjoys you and sees as much in you as you do in her. To each his own - I know some of you fools like a trophy wife or a chick you can manipulate/control all the time - but give me Miss Independent.” Woman all around me are either stepping up their game to be the “independent woman” that Lauren London and Gabby Union portray in that stunning video, or pumping their feminist fists in the air and rolling their necks as their theme song blairs through the speakers.
Well ladies. Let me warn you. While it is great to have your own, be careful how far you take that mess. I sent a text message to a friend that said, “I’m taking your lead.” He replied back in shock, “And you follow a man’s lead?” Huh?! I’m confused. Is that surprising? If so, why? Isn’t that what woman are supposed to do - follow a man’s lead? Ladies ladies ladies. Why do we have men out here feeling like we want to handle/lead/control everything? I’m sure I don’t have to remind you but when we were created, we were created as help mates. That’s not to say that we’re weak or less qualified. Notice that Adam WOULD NOTCOULD NOT survive without Eve. Men need us! They need help. Haven’t you notice how your man can’t even pick out an outfit without asking you for advice (which is so sweet and endearing, isn’t it?)! However, it is ESSENTIAL that you let…a man…be…a man. Yes, it’s true that we pretty much run things, but because you know this (and in most cases they know this too), you have to at least let them take the lead. Let me give you an example of how this works. If you are in the car together and you suggest he takes route A which is free of traffic or cuts the travel time down by 10 minutes, yet he thinks route B is best, let him go his way. When he runs into traffic or ends up lost, don’t trip and certainly don’t say that you told him so. Let him be the man that he is and find his way out. Although it may burn you up inside and eat at your soul, simply sit back and let him have the control. Not only will it allow him to feel like he wasn’t nagged into doing something he didn’t want to do, but he’ll respect your advice (which is usually 90% correct), AND take it next time! Lol. Imagine how nice it will be next time to hear, “Babe. Which way do you think we should go?” It’s really not that hard. At least not after you get past the first burning hurdle and learn to shut your mouth! =)
The most rewarding part of it all though is that following a man’s lead who has your best interest at heart is relaxing! Talk about a load off! As an independent woman who takes care of herself and makes decisions every single day, I would find it very refreshing to come home to a man who’s got me. To be able to sit back and have someone else make all the decisions for once will be like a slice of heaven right on time. Enjoy the “headship arrangement” and the advantages of being a woman ladies. And remember, two people can’t drive one car. If you try, there will be an accident.
by j.a.c.
Do you believe in soul mates?
I googled the term to get an appropriate definition and wikipedia spit this out: a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality and/or compatibility. Well then, according to wiki, I have about 3 or 4 of those! One of my soul mates is my ex-boyfriend. Our relationship was more than just a boyfriend, girlfriend thing. I want to say that we were best friends but I don’t even think ‘best friends’ accurately describes how we interacted. That term seems too pathetic. We were connected in a way that was beyond rational. To this day and 2 boyfriends later, I still refer to him as my soul mate. And then there’s my girl Nikki. We have almost nothing in common except for our spirituality. We can go a year without speaking, but as soon as we do, the conversations we have about God nearly draw us to tears. Our friendship/sisterhood is precious to me. And finally, have you ever met someone who’s a stranger one minute and your new favorite person the next? I can talk to the homie Chris ALL DAY LONG. When we speak, our conversations are dead on and the silences are perfect. We both discerned that I’m a female version of him. He’s the only person I can’t get sick of.
But when most people are asked to define ’soul mate’, you’ll hear some version of a soul mate being the one person in the universe that is truly meant for you. Well in that case, I don’t believe in soul mates. This version is too limiting. It would be depressing to believe that there was one person for me in the entire world. What if my ’soul mate’ lived in Thailand? If I never traveled there, does that mean I’ll never meet him? Does it mean that i’m doomed and will never have true love? This world’s too big of a place to believe that there’s only one out there for you. You make and break your own relationships. If you put in the work, your souls can connect. If you don’t… well. Good luck to you. Make your own destiny! Don’t wait on the world to bring it to you.
What about you? Do you believe in Soul Mates? Hit us with a comment.
How to differentiate between convenience, coincidence, & true commitment
Spirit is the unifying force of the world. It is the energy that unites hydrogen and oxygen to make water as well as the energy that brings two people together for a purpose. As Spirit brings people, especially potential spirtual partners, into our lives it is important to be conscious of the context in which they come because it lays the foundation for the entire relationship.
We should first be thankful for the human gift Spirit has brought into our lives and secondly, we should lay the proper foundation for the edification of that relationship in the same way you would get a vase with water for a gifted rose. To be honest, if it weren’t for Facebook, many of us wouldn’t talk to half the people we called friends in college because most of those relationships were based on convenience and coincidence instead of commitment. These are the 3 context that I have observed in the beginning stages of relationships of all types: romantic, friendly, and filial.
ESPN’s E:60 feature of Miami Heat’s Dwyane Wade and his relationship with his mother.
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