by j.a.c.

Do you believe in soul mates?

I googled the term to get an appropriate definition and wikipedia spit this out: a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality and/or compatibility. Well then, according to wiki, I have about 3 or 4 of those! One of my soul mates is my ex-boyfriend. Our relationship was more than just a boyfriend, girlfriend thing. I want to say that we were best friends but I don’t even think ‘best friends’ accurately describes how we interacted. That term seems too pathetic. We were connected in a way that was beyond rational. To this day and 2 boyfriends later, I still refer to him as my soul mate. And then there’s my girl Nikki. We have almost nothing in common except for our spirituality. We can go a year without speaking, but as soon as we do, the conversations we have about God nearly draw us to tears. Our friendship/sisterhood is precious to me. And finally, have you ever met someone who’s a stranger one minute and your new favorite person the next? I can talk to the homie Chris ALL DAY LONG. When we speak, our conversations are dead on and the silences are perfect. We both discerned that I’m a female version of him. He’s the only person I can’t get sick of. 

But when most people are asked to define ’soul mate’, you’ll hear some version of a soul mate being the one person in the universe that is truly meant for you. Well in that case, I don’t believe in soul mates. This version is too limiting. It would be depressing to believe that there was one person for me in the entire world. What if my ’soul mate’ lived in Thailand? If I never traveled there, does that mean I’ll never meet him? Does it mean that i’m doomed and will never have true love? This world’s too big of a place to believe that there’s only one out there for you. You make and break your own relationships. If you put in the work, your souls can connect. If you don’t… well. Good luck to you. Make your own destiny! Don’t wait on the world to bring it to you.

What about you? Do you believe in Soul Mates? Hit us with a comment.